Lament

Ambiguous Loss: Having But Not Having

Ambiguous Loss: Having But Not Having

During the first year, no one knew what Zach’s future would hold, so I decided not to grieve future losses but only present ones. Instead of grieving that he would most likely never go back to school, marry, have children, work to support himself, or live on his own, I only grieved the losses right in front of us—his right hand didn’t work well, and his short-term memory and voice were gone which made communication difficult.